TNC212 Being sick around a narcissist. how do toxic people behave when they are sick with you around (2023)

Introduction

In episode 212 of THE NARCISSISTS' CODE I talk about what it's like BEING SICK AROUND A NARCISSIST. HOW DO TOXIC PEOPLE BEHAVE WHEN THEY ARE SICK WITH YOU AROUND.

This episode I go into detail how a narcissist treats you when you are sick and how a narcissist will tend to behave when they are the one's that is sick.

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What is going on beautiful people welcome to another episode of the narcissist code, episode 212., wow, 212, episodes of this y'all.

What are we doing? Um, my name is, uh, lee, hammack, I'm known as mental illness across social media platforms.

And you know, I use my platform to raise awareness for npd, get more people into therapy and validate the victims and survivors of this disorder as well.

Um, today's.

Episode is going to be about sickness being sick with a narcissist, uh, you being sick, and then the narcissist being sick.

So a lot of times you see when like this is how it is, and typically it used to be in my household.

And I know a lot of people can attest to this as well of this going on in their houses as well is when the narcissist gets sick.

They we I use day and week interchangeably we we need unconditional treatment, you know, and this is that's, not a mad thing.

Narcissists want to be the center of attention.

So when we are sick, it's, always, we need the attention sickness, sometimes nurses will fake being sick to get attention.

Sometimes will fake injuries will fake being sick with fake being hurt to get attention.

But when a narcissistic person is really sick, we they all need attention want sympathy from the person that that they we are with one, um complete compassion from the person that we are with.

And we expect it if we don't get it, it will be held against you later on.

I promise you, if you are not 100 there for their narcissist in your life, when they are sick, they will hold to hold a grudge against.

You pretty much forever for the rest of your existence for the rest of your time together in this relationship, it will be weaponized against you.

You remember time I had especially right now with, you know, with cv 19 going around you people like, you know what you remember I had cv19.

And you didn't take care of me.

You left me at home by myself, you actually went to work.

You actually put the work above me.

You guys put the kids above me like nothing before nothing before the narcissist in your life.

Nothing.

You don't get to go to work.

You don't get to go to school.

You don't get to study for a test nothing like literally you have to drive.

You need to drop everything to take care of that narcissistic person to be there for that narcissistic person.

This is for most nurses.

I know, everybody's going to be different.

Some narcissists don't want any kind of sympathy, or I don't want you to be there for them at all just leave me alone when I'm sick type stuff, but a lot of them want that complete and utter attention on them.

Not only not only when they're sick like when they hurt like, I break my arm.

Ah, my arm, bro.

I can't do anything around the house.

You need to be here for me and take care of me it's like this is like unconditionally, like you need to stop working.

You need to stop if you're a student.

You need to stop going to school.

If you uh to have kids, you just take care of the kids you need to don't stop taking your kids, but you need to take care of the kids.

In addition to this big baby, you have here as well.

Man, woman, non-binary person, it's kind of irrelevant.

I know a lot of people gonna say, well, all men act like that when you're sick.

But this is about women and female narcissistic people as well.

So it's, just not a man thing, y'all, uh, but they expect complete.

Oh we need.

We need help.

Hey, I'm, sick that type of stuff right there.

You know me.

But the exact opposite exists on the other end of the spectrum when you get sick, if you need help, if you need somebody to take care of you, you get to withdraw from that narcissistic person you get you.

You get.

You see the lack of empathy or sometimes you're dealing with a sociopath or a psychopath, uh, that's, an anti-social person.

You get to know, empathy that's when the lack of empathy kicks in because narcissistic people do not care.

They expect you to get off.

They expect you to continue continue about your daily tasks.

Like if nothing is going on with you, like you can literally have the same exact ailment that they had literally the same exact thing could be going on within your life that was happening in the narcissistic person's life.

And it would not be even treatment.

But you bet you if you deal with a narcissist, you know, nothing is going to be equal treatment.

Anyway, you know, you're dealing with a narcissist.

And if you know you're dealing with a narcissist, you know, there's not going to be any kind of equality in the relationship you're, not going to get out of it.

Would you bit into it? Somebody who described it the other day as an investment like if you are investing in in a narcissist, you will never get the return on your investment.

So if you're a money manager, you smart with money, you're small without investing items and things like that.

You invest a lot of time effort energy finances into a narcissist.

You will never get your roi will be negative because you'll, not you will not get in what you put you will not get out what you put in.

I promise you.

So if you're if you get sick, if you get sick around that narcissist, you need them to take care of you.

They wouldn't disconnect from you a lot of times like I've talked to people who have had terminal, you know, terminal cancer and things of that nature and narcissists will discard you.

They will discard you.

They will not.

They will the lack of lack of empathy to know, empathy.

But with darker dark people on a darker triad kicks in, and they will completely get rid of you.

They will leave you in your time of the time that you need them.

The most they will need you.

But if they like, I said, the shoes on the other foot, they would expect you to be there unconditionally.

And you will a lot of times because you are a lot of times, not not all the time.

But a lot of times if you deal with a narcissist, you might have some codependency.

You might be an impact or whatever the term for today is nowadays.

You might be, you know on that spectrum, right there and you're going to be there for them because you're a caring person, whereas they will not be there for you.

They would discard you a lot of times.

I mean, I was uh rest in peace.

Uh, april rammers.

Her story was powerful to me because she had terminal breast cancer and her her husband, literally left her instead of fighting begging and pleading to get him back.

She fought begged and plead pleaded in court and got custody.

Her daughter and left her daughter to somebody else other than her husband.

So, shout out april romers in peace.

You know, me because she's one of my friends, if I did a one-on-one with over zoom, and you know, she passed away back in like september.

So you know, she's still on my mind, no, um.

But yeah, that happened right there like when you get sick like terminal some kind of terminal illness, they will act like first of all.

If they don't discard you, they will act like they will minimize your sickness.

They will make it seem like you're, not as sick.

As, you think you are, like you have terminal cancer.

Oh is it really terminal people live like they gave you what six months to live I'm sure.

You have 16.

I'm.

Sure.

You have 60 more years.

To live like doctor is not right.

You know with the technology or whatever and they'll minimize your sickness.

They have to disconnect from you they'll minimize it and make it seem like you're, not going through what you're going through.

And then put you, you know, put you down put you out it still expects you to do all the stuff that you normally do no sympathy.

No empathy, just like completely disconnect from you.

Sometimes they will expect you to continue about your path continue living life like nothing is going on like you're, not sick like you're, not, you know slowly passing away or something like that, or you might you mean, you might get well here or sooner, or later, but like they still treat you like you need to be well? Right now just right there in that moment, and you know, I know, I know a lot of people are gonna here to see this video and hear this podcast I'm like yup that sounds like this sound like him.

Yup that sounds just like my wife, yep, that's, not just like my brother or my sister or my dad, or my mom, whatever because this is not just like intimate relationship.

This can be your family member.

This could be your dad.

When you when you get sick, your dad just get disconnects from you you.

You ain't that bad off you sick.

And you like you can't even walk.

Yeah, both your legs broken.

They expect you to still do your house chores or something like that, or they don't care.

They don't take you to doctors appointments and things like that, or they leave you at doctor's appointments for hours on end like they pick you up at three they'll, leave you there to seven or six.

So if not man, I can get you at all, you might have to uber home or get your cab home, because they forgot about you or they don't care to come get you or they're out, uh, you know, doing infidelities and teething and stuff like that.

So people disconnect from you narcissistic people.

Toxic people will disconnect from you when you get sick.

So expect like if you're dealing with a narcissist expect to take care of yourself, you have to like I'm, just telling you don't expect too much from that person don't people.

How do you deal with if we can't leave don't expect too much from that person? You just can't you can't, if you expect too much from the person that person will just withdraw from you disconnect from you and discard you a lot of times, get rid of you break up with you while you're, sick break up with you while you're, you know, you might, you know, break up with you while you're in, you know, intensive care or something like that don't come to your surgery or something like that.

You know, they literally disconnect from you and make it make it about them or or here's, the kicker, compare and contrast your illnesses.

So if y'all happen to get the same type of illness, both of y'all get the flu.

They want to make it seem like they survived the flu better than you did your flu is not as severe as their flu.

You know, me put your put your flu down and things of that nature, it's.

Compare and contrast, it's competition like everything.

It seems like it's competition with narcissistic people.

Because typically it is typically they want to one-up you even in illness, you know, and sometimes you know, I know you get married to a narcissistic person, it's still death.

The part no it's, not too bad for you part.

It's.

Still sickness does your partner sometimes until something something comes in between you sometimes when they have to get more energy to you is when into energy does you hard? You may because you get sick, you don't have enough energy.

Oh, you don't have enough energy to apply for me or to consider you selfish because you're doing more stuff for yourself because you're trying to eat healthier.

So that means they might have to eat healthier, because you do the grocery shopping and things like that.

You know, yeah, I gotta eat all this mess because you got because you made the decision to get sick, because you don't eat good that's.

Your fault.

That's.

Not my fault.

You see it right? Right? There, it's complete disconnect.

So if you're with a narcissistic person that you can't leave, but you don't want to leave, you know, when you get sick, you have to explain more from yourself.

You have to, you know, you might be tired.

You might be exhausted.

You might not be able to do it, but do not fully try to depend on that person because you know you can't, I know this tough disabled, a lot of people to hear.

They don't want to hear that.

But like literally, you know, it's the truth, though, you know, you cannot fully depend on that narcissistic person because they will disconnect from you.

They will discard.

You and they will get rid of you for getting sick point blame here in the store, I know that sucks, I know, it's hard to hear, but you have to take more care.

You have to take care of yourself when you get sick with a narcissist or get your family members to come over there, get your friends come help you out, and which which if you deal with a narcissist, you know, a lot of times they will keep your family members and friends away from the house like they'll.

You they'll need to be over here.

Your mom don't need to be over here.

Your friends don't need to be over here.

Your cousins, don't get to be over here.

Nobody needs to be over here.

I got you and you know, they don't got you, you know, they don't point blade period in the store.

Yeah, but the yellow light is popping up on my camera again.

So I keep looking up here in the corner right there.

Your layout yellow light is because I found my camera's about to go there.

Yeah.

So take care of yourself, be safe, mental illnesses out.

Peace.