What to do if your baby won't stop crying and you've tried everything (2024)

Sometimes your baby won't stop crying, even after you've tried everything you can think of to calm them down. And sometimes babies cry for no discernable reason, or won't stop crying unless they're held. This can be helpful to remember when you've gone down the list of possible causes of crying and still can't figure out what's upsetting your little one. It's normal to feel frustrated, angry, sad, or anxious when dealing with crying that doesn't stop. If you need a break, put your baby someplace safe, step away for a few minutes, and ask for help.

It's normal for babies to cry a lot: It's the only way they can communicate. In fact, most newborns cry for 45 minutes to two hours every day during the first six months of life.

Babies with colic – which affects about 1 in 10 infants – cry for seemingly no reason at all for at least three hours per day, three or more days per week, for at least three weeks.

Babies cry for many reasons, including to tell you that they're tired, or hungry, or have a wet diaper. Sometimes your baby cries because they want to be held or played with – or, sometimes, they're simply overstimulated and need a little quiet time.

In some cases, however, babies cry no matter what you do to soothe them. It's possible to rule out all of the usual suspects for crying, and find that none of the usual soothing strategies (such as feeding, swaddling, pacifiers, motion, and white noise) work.

Every parent knows that a crying baby is stressful and sometimes exasperating, especially when there's seemingly nothing you can do to help. Here's how to cope.

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Why babies cry for no reason

Whenever your baby cries, start by going through a mental checklist of the most likely causes. These include needing to eat or take a nap, feeling overstimulated, or wanting to you to hold them or play with them.

If none of these causes seem to be the problem, consider some of the less common reasons babies cry, which include:

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  • The witching hour, evening fussiness that occurs because babies are overstimulated and have a hard time self-soothing
  • Colic, which often starts for no identifiable reason and happens at about the same time every evening
  • Discomfort due to a gassy tummy, teething pain, diaper rash, or more unusual causes like a hair tourniquet (when a tiny hair or thread wraps around a finger or toe, potentially cutting off circulation)
  • Illness – especially if the cry sounds different from your baby's usual cry. Causes may include gastrointestinal reflux disease (babies will often refuse to feed and cry during feedings), fever (from the flu or another infection), or an ear infection (babies usually tug at an ear, which may have fluid drainage)
  • Sensitivity to a food in a breastfeeding mother's diet in breastfed babies, or sensitivity to cow's milk or soy in baby formula, which can lead to painful gas
  • Baby growth spurts, which can cause fussiness at 2 to 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, and 6 months of age

It's possible to check all of the possible causes for crying and come up empty-handed. Sometimes, there simply isn't a clear reason for a baby's tears.

My baby won't stop crying and I've tried everything – help!

There's nothing quite like a crying baby to make a parent feel helpless, anxious, and even angry – especially if the baby is inconsolable for no discernible reason. Know that most every parent goes through this with their child (some more often than others).

Although it may not seem like it now, your crying baby still loves you and needs you. Their crying isn't a reflection on you – it doesn't mean you're a bad parent.

Here are a few tips if your baby won't stop crying:

  • Manage the here and now. If you're overwhelmed by a crying baby, recognize and name your feelings – whether it's anxious, angry, or sad. Then put your baby in a safe place (such as their crib) and take a few minutes for yourself. If possible, ask your partner or a loved one to watch your baby while you step outside for some fresh air.
  • Focus on your breath. Stress causes a "fight or flight" response: Breathing becomes shallow, leading to symptoms of anxiety such as rapid heartbeat. Deep breathing into your abdomen helps you to reset and reduce stress hormones so you can think clearly and calmly. Close your eyes and take a few deep belly breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Slowly count the time it takes you to inhale and exhale, or simply place your hand on your abdomen to feel it expand.
  • Take care of yourself. Do your best to set aside time every day to tend to your own needs. That includes sleeping or taking naps (exhaustion makes it impossible to think rationally), exercising, eating well, and connecting with friends and family. Taking care of yourself also makes it possible for you to calmly care for your child, especially when they're going through a difficult phase.
  • Check in with the doctor. Be sure to talk to your baby's doctor if your baby has persistent crying episodes – especially if it's upsetting you or your gut's telling you something isn't right. The doctor can help definitively rule out other causes for persistent crying that might require treatment, such as a milk allergy, ear infection, or GERD. Also check in with your healthcare provider (such as your primary care doctor, ob-gyn or midwife, or a therapist) if your baby's crying is causing you to feel sad, anxious, or overwhelmed. Whether you're experiencing postpartum depression or simply need more support, they can help.

Call 911 if your baby won't stop crying and:

  • Has a seizure
  • Has blue or ashen skin
  • Breathes fast or seems to struggle to breathe (you may notice they're sucking in their stomach under the ribcage)
  • Has a high temperature but cold hands and feet
  • Has a spotty purple-red rash (which could be a sign of meningitis)

Note: Shaken baby syndrome often occurs in response to a baby's crying – their caregiver becomes frustrated, overwhelmed, or angry and shakes them violently. If you or anyone who cares for your baby ever feels close to losing control, they should put your baby someplace safe, step away for a few minutes, and call a friend or relative for help – or the National Parent Helpline at 1-855-427-2736.

My baby won't stop crying unless held

Babies love to be held – some of them so much that they won't stop crying unless they're in an adult's arms. Know that you can't spoil a baby and this phase will pass, as difficult as it can be. In the meantime, here are a few ways to deal:

  • Wear your baby whenever you can
  • Use a baby swing or bouncer to calm your baby (but not for sleeping)
  • If you haven't already, try swaddling your baby (when they're 2 months or younger)
  • Offer a pacifier, which babies often find soothing
  • Play white noise or quiet music, which may help your baby calm down
  • Take a walk with your baby in a carrier or stroller
  • Put your baby in their car seat and take them for a drive

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What to do if your baby won't stop crying and you've tried everything? ›

Be sure to talk to your baby's doctor if your baby has persistent crying episodes – especially if it's upsetting you or your gut's telling you something isn't right. The doctor can help definitively rule out other causes for persistent crying that might require treatment, such as a milk allergy, ear infection, or GERD.

How do you soothe a crying baby when you've tried everything? ›

Try stroking your baby's back firmly and rhythmically, holding them against you or lying face downwards on your lap. Undress your baby and massage them gently and firmly. Avoid using any oils or lotions until your baby's at least a month old. Talk soothingly as you do it and keep the room warm enough.

What do I do if I can't get my baby to stop crying? ›

To soothe a crying baby:
  1. First, make sure your baby doesn't have a fever. ...
  2. Make sure your baby isn't hungry and has a clean diaper.
  3. Rock or walk with the baby.
  4. Sing or talk to your baby.
  5. Offer the baby a pacifier.
  6. Take the baby for a ride in a stroller.
  7. Hold your baby close against your body and take calm, slow breaths.

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