Why Narcissists Rage At You And What It Really Says About Who You Are. (2024)


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A narcissist is someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. People with narcissistic personality disorder often believe they are superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. They tend to be controlling and have difficulty accepting criticism or setbacks. Narcissistic behavior can be detrimental to relationships and can be damaging to an individual's mental and physical health.

How Do You Know If Your Dealing With Narcissistic Abuse:
- Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, Lovers Of Themselves.
- Narcissists feel entitled and act in ways that cross your boundaries.
- Narcissists Create fantasies of having the perfect life, family, children or success.
- Narcissists Look down on others, and create gangs or groups from which to oppress people.
- Belittle others ideas and opinions as being inferior, invalid and not worth listening to.
- Expect others to comply with their way of doing things.
- Manipulate and use people to get what they want.
- Narcissists have no empathy for the needs of others
- Narcissists behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious

At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

- Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment
- Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
- React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
- Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
- Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
- Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
- Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation

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Now we all know that narcissistic rage can tell you a lot about the character of the person that you're dealing with all the name calling and cussing you out and screaming and yelling and fighting tells you just how toxic that person actually is tells you how immature and unstable they are.

But what we typically don't talk about is what that narcissistic rage says about you and your character and yes, the narcissistic rage that you've experienced has some things to say about you and it's, not what you think my name is kevin.

And this is the royal we.

So what does the narcissistic rage have to say about you? What can you learn about yourself coming out of a toxic relationship with a person who has yelled and cussed and screamed and insulted you? Well, let's talk about the insults because you've come out of the toxic situation, feeling inferior because everything about you has been insulted, narcissists will insult everything from your clothing fashion to the music you like to listen to to the type of phone you like to use you like iphones.

Well guess what the narcissist is gonna put that down and let, you know how ridiculous and dumb and stupid iphones are not because they're bad, but because you like it and again, it's easy to feel like you are inferior, but that's, the farthest thing from the truth.

The reason narcissists are attacking and insulting everything about you is because you refuse to be inferior and that's the truth because your very presence in the way in which you live your life, and you enjoy the things that you have in life from an inside place, meaning you selected it.

You enjoy a particular type of music because it moves you you enjoy food because it tastes good to you.

You use a certain phone because you like the functionality of it and you're confident in your selections.

And this bothers narcissists, because you refuse to be inferior, you refuse to allow them and the things that they like to be the best and to be superior.

And so therefore they insult everything about you because it's, the only thing they can do to feel good about the things they like around you to be honest with you narcissists don't, even typically have things that they genuinely like they move like chameleons and jump back and forth to whatever's popular.

Whatever so-and-so is talking about.

They don't have something from the inside of themselves that they find functionality for nothing sustaining.


They like something one day and hate it.

The next you on the other hand, you find something sustainable you like the functionality of something and you stick with it and this bothers them.

And the reason is is because you find something and you work with it until it is superior for your needs.

And again, narcissists hate this.

So again, they insult you not because you're inferior, but because you refuse to be inferior, and you refuse to go along with what they say and they need to feel like they're superior.

Let's talk about narcissists who attack you or threaten you and narcissists do a great job of attacking in a threatening way puffing out their chest acting tough, talking about violence and hostility, all this weird stuff.

And you might feel weak in the situation because you choose to turn and walk away you're, not walking away because you're weak.

And as a matter of fact, narcissists are not attacking you and threatening you because you're weak, even though that's how you might feel.

The truth is they're attacking you because you're strong, because your very presence is a threat to them narcissists live in this place where they feel oppressed.

They're constantly a victim.

They are oppressed by the world around them.

You having what you have you being independent puts them in a position where they feel like you are oppressing them simply because they're, not you this bothers them.

They feel weakened in the situation because of their oppression because of your independence, it oppresses them your strength.

And believe me there is strength in independence.

If you are an independent person, you are strong because you don't need to fit in you don't need them in order to feel good about yourself.

You don't need a connection with the toxic people though they make it seem like you need them in your life.

You don't and they know it.

And as a result, it oppresses them to know that they're not needed, it oppresses them to know that you are secure in yourself.

And so they fight you.

They threaten you.

So so far, there's, two things that we've discovered that we've talked about the reason you're insulted is because you refuse to be inferior.

The reason you are attacked is because you are strong and independent both these things are triggering to narcissists.

And finally, the reality of why narcissists ultimately hate you.

This has everything again to do with your independence, not only that.

But it has to do with your inner joy, your gratitude in life, your gratefulness, your contentness.

If you will, you are content in this life, you're grateful for who you are you're grateful for the connections that you have.

These are things that narcissists typically do not have.

They don't experience these things they don't have this inner joy.

Their joy is only experienced by the people they surround themselves with who either worship them or idolize them.

This is why they constantly need to be fed that supply.

They need that fuel because that is what makes them feel good without that.

They wither away and die.

Jew on the other hand, you're self-fulfilled.

And many of you are fulfilled because of your relationship with the lord who fills you up.

However, the case may be you are full from the inside out you're living from the inside out.

Your joy is genuine joy.

Your laughter is genuine laughter and nothing bothers a narcissist more than genuine laughter.

How many of you have seen a narcissist walk away and disgust because you laughed and it looks like they got punched in the gut.

They can't stand it.

They hate it because they don't have that if they are not receiving the attention from outside, they feel worthless, and they hate you and resent you because you don't require outside validation.

Now, I know that you feel weakened you feel inferior, and you might even feel a little anger and resentment inside of you, but nothing compared to what the narcissist feels.

So let the hatred that the narcissist has expressed to you let all of their attacks and all of their insults do this one thing let it reveal to you just how number one, how awesome you are, but how different you are? Most importantly that you were to have nothing to do with them narcissists have chosen to live in this dark place.

They can get out of this dark pit if they want to the dark pit that makes them feel like they have to be tough, all the time many of them don't want to because they've grown comfortable and safe in this darkness.

But now you on the other hand are a light, and unfortunately, you dabbled around and experienced some of the dark world.

But the reality is is you need to get back into the light and light has nothing to do with darkness.

You cannot be a light in the darkness, don't buy into this whole thing of will be a light in the darkness, uh, uh.

Listen, a light in darkness, will not be seen a light and darkness is surrounded by darkness.

The only way a light is seen is it is is if it's divided by the separated from the darkness, the darkness can see your light right? Light surrounds itself with light darkness, surrounds itself with darkness.

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Why Narcissists Rage At You And What It Really Says About Who You Are. (2024)


Why Narcissists Rage At You And What It Really Says About Who You Are.? ›

Research has found that narcissistic rage is a response to a narcissist feeling their entitled and grandiose self-image has been challenged. It stems from narcissistic vulnerability – their fragile self-esteem.

Why do narcissists rage at you? ›

A narcissist can become easily enraged if a setback occurs in their life, job, or relationship. Not getting their way results in both a loss of control and a bruised ego. In these situations, they may lash out with rage to either deflect from the conflict or regain a sense of authority.

What happens when a narcissist gets mad at you? ›

Types of Narcissistic Rage

Explosive rage: The person hurls insults, screams and yells, and may even threaten other people or harm themselves. Passive rage: The person retreats into a period of sulking and refuses to engage with you.

What words can destroy a narcissist? ›

How do you verbally disarm a narcissist?
  • “I don't agree with you, but you have a right to have your opinion. ...
  • “You are certainly entitled to your opinion. ...
  • “We can agree to disagree.”
  • “We will work on this together.”
  • “Let me ask your advice on this. ...
  • “I hear what you're saying.”
  • “I'm sorry you feel that way.”

What is an example of a narcissistic rage? ›

Examples of narcissistic rage range from intense outbursts and sudden fits of anger, to passive-aggressive acts such as simmering resentment, icy silence, deliberate neglect, or cutting sarcasm.

How do you react to a narcissistic rage? ›

Best Ways To Deal With Narcissistic Rage
  1. Don't Be Baited. Narcissists want attention and they want fuel for their fire. ...
  2. Don't Accept Their Blame. ...
  3. Fight Back With Kindness. ...
  4. Make and Stick to Boundaries. ...
  5. Give Equal Weight to Your Own Feelings. ...
  6. Defend Yourself: Prevent Bullying Without Fighting. ...
  7. Make Sure to Document Everything.
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Do narcissists try to destroy you? ›

Grooming a person, manipulating her into doubting her feelings, generating shame regarding her best qualities, and manipulatively creating dependency are four ways a narcissist destroys a person from the inside out.

Why do narcissists turn nasty? ›

Narcissistic Disappointment: They cannot understand why you would want to stay the way you are. When you resist their suggestions, they feel insulted — as if you have criticized them, not the other way around. They become angry, want to punish you, and may begin to get nasty.

What to say to a narcissist to shut them down permanently? ›

I Don't Like How You're Speaking to Me so I Will not Engage” Saying this sets a boundary. They feed off of triggering you, so knowing that you won't participate in a fight will cut off their supply. For this to work, it's important that you don't cave in when the narcissist inevitably persists in engaging you.

What is the #1 word a narcissist Cannot stand? ›

It comes hand-in-hand with this that narcissists hate being criticised or called out. Which is exactly why there's one word in particular narcissistic people cannot stand: "no".

What scares off a narcissist? ›


Rejection causes major narcissistic injury and is one of the top 10 things narcissists fear the most. They can't handle it, even if it's a tiny slight. Remember, they have a sense of entitlement and pride themselves on being the ones who reject and discard their victims.

What are the four words you should never say to a narcissist? ›

8 Things You Should Never Say to a Narcissist
  • Don't say, "It's not about you." ...
  • Don't say, "You're not listening." ...
  • Don't say, "Ina Garten did not get her lasagna recipe from you." ...
  • Don't say, "Do you think it might be your fault?" ...
  • Don't say, "You're being a bully." ...
  • Don't say, "Stop playing the victim."
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What angers a narcissist the most? ›

They may feel impatient or angry when special treatment is denied and that may escalate conflicts. Most narcissists who may experience narcissistic rage feel easily downtrodden or negated when others act superior. It is hard for them to stay calm and control emotions, behavior, stress, and changes in their own life.

What hurts a narcissist? ›

Narcissists are highly sensitive to criticism or any perceived threat to their self-image, and they will go to great lengths to protect it. If you criticize them or challenge their dominance, you will trigger a defensive response.

How do you embarrass a narcissist? ›

Tease, ridicule, and shame them mercilessly for not trying to figure out right from wrong, instead, pretending to have it all figured out. Stay calm, even friendly, to the person cowering inside their absolute narcissistic fake infallibility cloak. Stay light, even humorous.

What happens when you ignore narcissistic rage? ›

Ignoring the vicious narcissist

They may begin to throw increasingly toxic and hostile remarks at their victims. They may start to break things or throw things around. They can become physically violent. If the victim is away, their rage will keep boiling until they can explode it on their victim or someone else.

How long does narcissistic rage last? ›

In a survey we conducted among 400 survivors of narcissistic abuse, we found that the average duration of a single narcissistic rage episode is three hours. We also found that the average duration of narcissistic rage from a narcissist who was experiencing multiple episodes is five-and-a-half days.

What turns a narcissist off? ›

When you don't depend on anyone to make money and you use your abundance to take care of yourself and not predators, you will always have the ability to control your own future. This is power, and pathologically envious narcissists are often turned off by it because it means they cannot easily control a victim.

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